Answer: The teacher-counselor is one who pays a lot of attention to expert advice on parenting and who believes that as long as all of the steps are followed the parent can rear a perfect child.There are two major problems with this approach.First the parent is taking all of the responsibility for the child’s behavior at least indirectly. If the child has difficulty the parent feels responsible and thinks that the solution lies in reading more advice and trying more diligently to follow that advice.Parents can certainly influence children but thinking that the parent is fully responsible for the child’s outcome is faulty. A parent can only do so much and can never have full control over the child.Another problem with this approach is that the child may get an unrealistic sense of the world and what can be expected from others. For example if a teacher-counselor parent decides to help the child build self-esteem and has read that telling the child how special he or she is or how important it is to compliment the child on a job well done the parent may convey the message that everything the child does is exceptional or extraordinary.A child may come to expect that all of his efforts warrant praise and in the real world this is not something one can expect.Perhaps children get more of a sense of pride from assessing their own performance than from having others praise their efforts.
Bob and Suze parents of young Ennis take personal responsibility for their child’s successes and failures….